Why healthy conflict can be good for your relationship.
If you're reading this, chances are you're in a relationship where you’re fighting a lot more than you’d like. But guess what? That's absolutely okay! In fact, it might even be a sign that your relationship is healthier than you think.
Now, before you start questioning your compatibility, let's dive into why a little bit of healthy conflict** can help make your relationship stronger!
Communication is Key: When people tell me that they never fight with their partner, that sets off a warning alarm in my brain. If you’re always agreeing with your partner, are you advocating for what you want and need in the relationship? Or are you staying quiet to keep the peace? Conflict, my friends, can give you the chance to communicate openly, honestly, and authentically about things your partner is doing or saying that aren’t working for you.
Conflict = Growth: Think of your relationship as a beautiful garden. Without a little pruning and weeding, things can get pretty tangled up. Conflict, believe it or not, is a sign of growth. It gives you both an opportunity to learn, evolve, and become better partners. So, instead of running for the hills at the first sign of disagreement, grab your gardening gloves and get ready to cultivate something beautiful together. Lead with curiosity!
Make-up Sex: Need I say more? Conflict can lead to resolution and feeling closer afterwards which can lead to some seriously steamy make-up sessions. So, the next time you find yourselves in a heated debate over whose turn it is to do the dishes, remember – it's all just foreplay!
Laughter is the Best Medicine: Ever heard the saying, "Couples who laugh together, stay together"? Well, it's true! Conflict doesn't have to be all doom and gloom. Inject a little humor into your disagreements and watch the tension melt away. So, go ahead, crack a joke, break the tension, and remember – life's too short to take it too seriously.
In conclusion, dear couples, never underestimate the power of a good old-fashioned spat. Embrace the conflicts, celebrate the resolutions, and remember – a little bit of friction can ignite the sparks that keep your relationship burning bright.
**Important note: I’m referring to healthy conflict where both people are trying to speak up for themselves to feel heard and understood by the other with the goal of working towards repair and reconnection. I am not referring to screaming or cursing at each other, slamming doors, throwing things or any physical or emotional abuse which is unhealthy and unsafe conflict.
